Tamulam or Fixing of the Alliance
In the betrothal ceremony, the parents of both the bride and the groom
agree for the marriage of their children. While the groom's family,
present the bride with a sari, blouse piece, coconut and fruits, the
bride's family gift the groom a dhoti, coconut and many fruits. As this
ritual of exchange of gift takes place, the priest recites mantras.
Naandi custom is performed by both the groom as well as bride's family
in their respective homes. This is done to ensure that the marriage
takes place smoothly.
As a part of Kaashi Yatre tradition, the bridegroom pretends that he is
very angry and leaving for Kashi yatra because nobody is making an
effort to find a suitable bride for him. He makes an announcement of his
Brahmacharya. He stops only when his maternal uncle persuades him by
showing him the girl that he has chosen for him. Or else he makes an
offer of marrying his own daughter to him.
Traditionally, this ceremony is performed on the day of the arrival of
the groom's family to the girl's village. All the items of marriage are
placed in front of the idol of Lord Ganesha, to seek his divine
blessings. Thereafter, turmeric paste is applied to the bride and groom,
to lend glow to their skin. This takes place in their respective houses.
Mandap Puja &
The first and foremost ritual that is performed on the wedding day is
the Mandap puja. Preparations are done to purify the mandap and hall,
where marriage is to take place. The bride's father then escorts the
groom to the mandap. Thereafter, the bridegroom (who is considered to be
a form of Lord) is worshipped. This ceremony is called Var Puja. The
bride's parents wash the groom's feet. The groom is given a silk dhoti
and pitambar to wear.
Thereafter, the bride is brought to the mandap with her sister covering
her face with a fan made from peacock feathers. A white cloth is raised
so that the couple cannot see each other. The groom and the bride put
garland around each other's neck, to the chant of mantras. The
bridegroom's sister holds a kalash of holy water containing a coconut,
beetle leaves and Kombu Gindi.
Dhare Herdu custom is performed by the bride's parents as a gesture of
giving away their daughter to the bridegroom. The bride's hand is placed
in her husband's hand and a coconut and beetle leaves are kept on their
hands. Then the parents pour a few drops of holy water on their hands.
Thereafter, the bridegroom ties the mangalsutra around his wife's neck.
Saptapadi ceremony involves the taking of seven rounds by the couple
around the sacred fire. Known as the saat phera, in every round, the
couple makes a promise to each other to be at one another's side in good
and bad times.
When the bride enters into her new home for the first time, she is given
a warm welcome by the groom's parents. This tradition is known as Graha
Pravesh. A kalash filled with rice is kept at the house entrance. The
bride is then asked to kick it with her right foot and step into the
In the name change ceremony, the bridegroom decides a name for his wife
and inscribes it on a plate containing rice with a ring. On the second
day after marriage, the bride's family visits the newly weds house and
take them to their home. The newly wedded couple stays at the bride's
home for a couple of days. Thereafter, the groom's family goes to the
bride's house to fetch the couple.
The groom's family presents five saris to the bride, one for each
occasion. A beautiful sari is given for the Dare puja, Kanjeevaram sari
for the wedding and simple saris for the haldi and puja. When the bride
comes to her husband's home after graha pravesh, she is seated on a
sari, which is later given to her. The groom dresses up in silk dhoti
Reception party is usually held in the banquet hall in the evening time,
where delicious mouthwatering food is served. Music and dance dominate
the reception party. Members of the family make merry and celebrate the
union of two individuals.